Remember the Michael Jackson's song Man in the Mirror? "I'm looking at the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to change his way..... if you want to make the world a better place then look at yourself and change."
The problem is that we are blind to ourselves. We can't really see how we behave or understand the ripple effect we create with our actions. We behave the way we were conditioned to behave. Just like that pit bull who was raised to be mean or if lucky raised to be a lover. We can't do anything about our past but we can change our future.
If you are an adult and the kind of person who seems to get screwed often with bad business transactions, unfriendly encounters, friends taking advantage of you, etc. you need to know you are not a victim. I know that is harsh, I am sorry but it needs to be said. If everyone is treating you like this it is because of what you are sending out. Plain and simply, "you get what you give." This is even more important; if you are not giving out negativity but you are thinking something negative such as, "he is going to screw me, I just know it!" Guess what? He will because you set the idea into motion with your mind. You put energy into making that happen.
Thoughts= Feelings=Action= Results
Now there are times when the gut can trigger a message of warning that needs to be listened to. This is the tricky part. How do you distinguish between the two messages? The one that you are manifesting or the one that comes from truth? I don't have an answer for that. You will have to discover it on your own. When you get to the point of your life when you know only goodness will come to you, the messages to beware are clear.
Life can be so beautiful and fun when you are surrounded by love and your skepticism is gone. It is never too late to become the person you want to be and why not now, early in January. Put it on your list for your goals and work on looking at the world with love and respect instead of the opposite.
Here are a few ideas to help you get started in transforming your thinking:
- When you begin to think something negative, stop yourself and restructure your sentence in a positive way. Change this whisper; "I just know it isn't going to work out" to "I am confident this will work out." Change, "I am never getting rid of this weight" to "I am eating right to get rid of this weight."
- When you are speaking with someone consider them kind, responsible and loving even if you don't know them. Expect the best from them, treat them with respect and you will get that back from them. "You get what you give." When you want love, give love. When you want respect, give respect.