Monday, November 9, 2015

"I am happy with who I am. I am one of-a-kind and 
I cannot be compared with anyone."

Since an early age we begin comparing ourselves with others.  We want to be stronger, smarter, funnier, shaped differently, have more hair, less hair, curly hair, straight hair, a flat belly, rounder boobs, taller, shorter, thinner, browner, etc. For some people the list goes on and on. 

To be on this roller coaster of thought is self-destructive because ultimately the reason we want to change on the outside is because we are not happy on the inside. There is a hole in our heart saying, "I will be worthy, find love, be liked, be seen, etc. if I look like this..." 

Let's face the facts.  We can become smarter and funnier with some education, that's easy. But we can do little with what our parents gave us genetically.  If we have the money and desire we can fix our nose, increase our curves and made a few cosmetic changes. If we don't like our curly hair we can have it straightened. If we don't like the color of our hair we can change that too. But if we make these cosmetic changes will we begin to feel worthy, find love, be liked, or be seen?  Most likely we won't. Because we haven't filled the hole. Only when the hole is filled will we find happiness. 

Recently I was reading a pattern making book and the ladies who wrote the book give classes where they trace the silhouette of their students. This is part of their process to help women see their own body shape and use that information to create the perfect sewing pattern. The authors noted that in the 25 years they have done this, with thousands of women, never have they found 2 exact bodies! 

There are basically 5 body shapes; hourglass, triangle, inverted triangle, rectangle and O

Fit for Real People By Pati Palmer and Marta Alto

Within each body shape there are numerous differences. High waists, slumped shoulders, uneven hips, tall, petite, etc. Knowing this, "how can we compare ourself with others if we are all uniquely different?" Our uniqueness sets us apart from others. We were designed to be unique, one-of-a-kind!

How do we release this desire to compare and secretly wish we looked like someone else? 

It always comes back to our daily whisper. If you find yourself falling into old habits of comparisons tell yourself to stop. "STOP!" Instead say,  "I am happy with who I am. I am one of-a-kind and I cannot be compared with anyone." Once you begin the process of a loving daily whisper magical things will happen.  Your beauty will begin to shine from within. And you will become worthy, you will find love, be liked and be seen. 

Sunday, November 8, 2015

Being okay with who we are.

For those people who know me, I am kind,  funny and happy. I love my family, friends, dogs, cats and most animals with four legs. I enjoy painting, sewing and creating. I love our planet,  and everything that surrounds me. My passion is to inspire and help people find their value and happiness (thus my Daily Whispers.)  I sound pretty good but believe me I am far from perfect.  For instance, at times I say really stupid things and I am extremely uncomfortable around people who are angry so I mentally check out and retreat to my happy place. When I feel revived I come forward and address the anger but sometimes that is too late for the person the conflict occurred with. Yikes, the cold hard truth is difficult to keep from deleting! haha

In the Beginning.....

When my business first launched its plush toy line I had a goal in mind to always promote positive thinking. I saw it an extension of my Inspirational Card Decks. Here were the first two items I made. I painted the fabric and sewed on little banners of whispers.