"I am happy with who I am. I am one of-a-kind and
I cannot be compared with anyone."
Since an early age we begin comparing ourselves with others. We want to be stronger, smarter, funnier, shaped differently, have more hair, less hair, curly hair, straight hair, a flat belly, rounder boobs, taller, shorter, thinner, browner, etc. For some people the list goes on and on.
To be on this roller coaster of thought is self-destructive because ultimately the reason we want to change on the outside is because we are not happy on the inside. There is a hole in our heart saying, "I will be worthy, find love, be liked, be seen, etc. if I look like this..."
Let's face the facts. We can become smarter and funnier with some education, that's easy. But we can do little with what our parents gave us genetically. If we have the money and desire we can fix our nose, increase our curves and made a few cosmetic changes. If we don't like our curly hair we can have it straightened. If we don't like the color of our hair we can change that too. But if we make these cosmetic changes will we begin to feel worthy, find love, be liked, or be seen? Most likely we won't. Because we haven't filled the hole. Only when the hole is filled will we find happiness.
Recently I was reading a pattern making book and the ladies who wrote the book give classes where they trace the silhouette of their students. This is part of their process to help women see their own body shape and use that information to create the perfect sewing pattern. The authors noted that in the 25 years they have done this, with thousands of women, never have they found 2 exact bodies!
There are basically 5 body shapes; hourglass, triangle, inverted triangle, rectangle and O
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Within each body shape there are numerous differences. High waists, slumped shoulders, uneven hips, tall, petite, etc. Knowing this, "how can we compare ourself with others if we are all uniquely different?" Our uniqueness sets us apart from others. We were designed to be unique, one-of-a-kind!
How do we release this desire to compare and secretly wish we looked like someone else?
It always comes back to our daily whisper. If you find yourself falling into old habits of comparisons tell yourself to stop. "STOP!" Instead say, "I am happy with who I am. I am one of-a-kind and I cannot be compared with anyone." Once you begin the process of a loving daily whisper magical things will happen. Your beauty will begin to shine from within. And you will become worthy, you will find love, be liked and be seen.
